Learning to Say NO

By May 22, 2010All Articles

Complimentary Recording:
How to make Empowering Choices
Congruent to Your Values


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A few years ago, I wrote a book entitled Vision Made Real: Creating Space for Your Deepest Intentions. In my book, I share what prevents most people from manifesting what they truly want in life.

What do you think prevents most people from having an extraordinary career, ideal health, extraordinary relationships, a greater income, or more time for the recreation that fuels their soul? Space…space to think, contemplate, create, and manifest. Many of us say, “When I have time I will —– ” but don’t schedule the time to tap into our spirit and envision what we want. We don’t schedule time to take our vision to the planning stage, and we don’t take time to create the action items which support the manifestation of what we say we truly want.

Oprah said it so well in an article written by her in ‘O’ magazine a few years back. “In order for you to say yes to the parts of your life that give you passion, you must say no to the activities, beliefs, and relationships that don’t serve you.” She also went on to say that women in America have ten times the obligations and expectations of men and most women around the globe.

This originates from social mirror, media, relationships, organizations, and parents, but most often, it’s our self-imposed expectation. Where in life are you saying yes when you want to say no?

Here’s your 21 day challenge. Create two lists and title them, “What Brings Me Fulfillment?” and “What Am I Tolerating?” Carry your lists everywhere you go for the next 21 days, and notice what you want more of and less of. Challenge yourself to review your list every Monday morning and distinguish what choices you could take action on that would bring you more fulfillment in life. Notice what’s draining you, what you’re tolerating, and come up with ways to dump it, delegate it, hire it out, or put a stop to it once and for all. This exercise has blown my clients away.

It’s interesting what happens when we make empowering decisions. When you begin to make empowering decisions, you become more esteemed and naturally fulfilled. When you feel fulfilled you raise your vitality, radiate joy and become naturally expressive. You’ll notice that everyone loves to be around you. Your children, spouse, and team will benefit as well. Why? It’s simple–you love your life and everyone can see it because you radiate it, and others will be attracted to you like bees to honey.

Joy and Success,

Steven Q. Wiltshire, CEO
Lifeline Coaching & Education, Inc.

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  • Sharon says:

    I loved this message…I was dreading the Summer months. But I am going to turn my attitude around and be more in the me…

    When a party night is free, I’ll see it as an opportunity and do something with my famiy or for myself…instead of being a grouch…

    I will get re-acquainted with my meetings…I quit doing them in December. Maybe I’ll re-listen…go find the other two recordings…lol…

    Thank You!

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